Getting Married Later

married-coupleIt used to be considered normal for people for people in our culture to get married at a young age. In the past, tying the knot in your early 20s (sometimes earlier!) was just another rite of passage that signified adulthood. However, times of have changed. Now people are waiting longer to enter into marriage. The reasons for this vary widely, but one of the biggest impacts on the institution of marriage has been education. Not only are people getting advanced degrees, they are waiting until they are out of school and financially stable before they legally bind themselves to another person.

This change in how people view marriage isn’t necessarily a bad thing. After all, many people who marry later in life have a lower divorce rate than people who tie the knot at a young age. This is probably due to the fact that the older we get, the more we learn about ourselves. Think about how much we evolve from our 20s through our 30s. How many of us look back at the people we were back then and marvel about how much we’ve changed? Probably just about everyone at sometime or another if we’re totally honest with ourselves.

Some people wait to get married because of their experiences as a child. For example, people who watched their parents marriage struggle might be more apt to hold off before walking down the aisle. Obviously the experiences we have as children can shape us and how we view the world. They can also shape how we interact with others and deal with future relationships.

As we mature, many of us also gain the ability to choose wisely. This means that we don’t just think with our hearts, but we also think with our heads and look at the bigger picture. We also value our independence. Fifty or sixty years ago, men were considered the main breadwinner and a wife was completely dependent on her husband to provide for her. But times changed when more and more women started entering the workforce and taking control of their own finances. Today, women no longer look to a man to “save” them – they simply do what needs to be done on their own.