Many people struggle with anger or frustration. While you may not walk around feeling as though you are full of rage, you might feel constantly on edge, and then when something happens to push you over that edge, you are more likely to blow up completely out of proportion to the event. Things not going as planned, financial worries, production demands, work demands, family issues or even just traffic can cause your blood pressure to soar and your emotions to boil over.
Stress is a normal, everyday occurrence, but it may be to blame for your occasional or regular blow ups. It can also strain your cardiovascular system and even leave you more susceptible to minor illnesses such as colds. You can get control over your feelings with a few changes in your life.
1. Take a deep breath.
Lashing out in the heat of the moment can hurt others and leave you feeling ashamed of your actions. Give yourself time to calm down before addressing the situation so that you can think clearer. Then express your thoughts concisely and directly without aggression or assigning blame.
2. Change your focus.
When we are feeling overwhelmed or angry, we tend to focus only on the problem. Divert your energy towards finding a solution instead. This can help you get your mind off your emotions so that you can solve problems better.
3. Address the stress.
You cannot control or eliminate every stressor, but you can learn new ways to deal with it. When you start to feel that familiar fury rising in your throat, go outside and get some exercise, squeeze a stress ball or immerse yourself in other favorite physical activities. A balanced diet, stress-reducing activities such as yoga and Tai Chi and healthy sleep habits can also help you better manage your emotions.
If you continue to struggle with with angry feelings or rage, you may need to go to the doctor. Irritability, anxiety and irritation can all be symptoms of depression or other health problems. Medication or counseling may be necessary to help you get back on track and reduce the risk of more serious outbursts or other complications.